Dating after separation soon
He spent 10 years saying, “well maybe after (insert life event) happens, things will get better.” They did counseling, they tried having a bunch of reconnecting vacations, all kinds of stuff.
He says the marriage was never good and he knew a year before the separation that things were over.
It’s common for the newly separated to jump into a new relationship quickly; this is known as “rebounding.” Rebounding results from wanting to fill the void of loss and loneliness one feels after marital separation.
However, because rebound relationships are based on filling a void, rather than being ready to move on, they often fall apart quickly.
You should be at a stage where you’re happy to be alone.
That’s a strong indication that you’re at a stage where you can move ahead. You’re a person of real worth, with plenty to offer, able to have fun and be good company.
If you feel that way, with good self-esteem, then you’re well on the road.
In some cases, financial constraints or concerns for children can make it difficult for a separated couple to physically separate.
For example, you still share a home with your spouse (even if one of you moved into the spare room or basement), or you’ve moved out but visit your former home every night to see your kids. Dating before you’ve established a full separation can make you look dishonest (even unfaithful) in the eyes of your spouse, family, and those you date.